Saying "thank you" in the heat of an argument or the minute the furnace breaks aint gonna happen, unless we are Buddhist monks. But, maybe we can slow down the reaction time; by inviting breath in and allowing ourselves to be more open and receptive to the experience. It might lessen the intensity and lead us to gratitude sooner than later. Being receptive requires letting go of control, and listening to what the present moment has to offer.
Regardless of how we perceive it to be, it is what it is. So, we have a choice, we always have a choice. We can choose to resist the situation we have been presented with and continue to go about our life cursing and blaming, get through it, and find ourself in the same situation again and again. Or we can choose to accept what is happening, open up to it in a receptive way, so we can listen to what is begging for our attention and journey through it towards greater wisdom.
For me, Thanksgiving holidays and other family gatherings have gotten smoother over the years. Yoga has been an essential tool in this journey. Yoga has taught me to breathe and thus relax my physical body. But mostly yoga has taught me to look within and recognize that my circumstances are my own, no one is at fault and that only I have the power to change them. This has helped me to be able to thank my parents, my siblings, my grandparents, my friends, my husband and now my daughter for all the opportunities for growth that they have given me and will continue to give me.
Thank you everyone!